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5 Tips To Overcome Self-Criticism

March 26, 2018 in Mind - 20 Comments
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Self-criticism is a personality trait that affects the lives of many individuals. For those who struggle with it, it may seem like a constant battle with your inner-self. Trying new things and making certain decisions can be difficult because your inner-critic always seems to be ready with a harsh critique.

“If you live off a man’s compliments, you’ll die from his criticisms.”
– Cornelius Lindsey

Overcoming negative self-criticism takes time and consistent practice. Once you learn how to silence the negative words of your inner conscious, you can begin to live your best life. Here are 5 tips to help you overcome self-criticism.

What Is Self-Criticism?

Golan Shahar, a clinical psychologist, describes self-criticism as “a tendency to set unrealistically high self-standards and to adopt a punitive, derogatory stance toward the self once these are not met.” This way of thinking may cause a person to constantly doubt themselves and have the false belief they aren’t good enough. These types of thoughts can lead to negative self-esteem, troubles in relationships, and even depression.


 5 Tips For Overcoming Self-Criticism

1) Identify Your Inner-Critic

Self-awareness is key in dealing with self-criticism. Having experienced self-critical moments, I have learned to pay greater attention to my thoughts. This is especially important during times when I’m stressed and frustrated. If I notice my conscious becoming overly critical, I will ask myself if those negative thoughts are beneficial. Recognizing when your thoughts are becoming self-critical allows you to evaluate a situation and redirect the direction of your thinking.

2) Be Honest With Yourself

Self-criticism often results when we fail to meet high-self standards. Instead of verbally attacking and viewing yourself as a “failure” when things don’t go as planned, take a moment to put the situation into perspective. Ask yourself if what you’re trying to achieve is realistic given the goal, time and circumstances. If you don’t achieve something it doesn’t mean you’re a failure. You may have to readjust your approach and make necessary changes as you work towards accomplishing your goals.

3) Develop Positive Actions

Negative thoughts and emotions only fuel criticism. Being able to identify trigger points allows you to develop positive actions when it comes to negative self-criticism. Take a moment to think of things that cause you to become overly critical of yourself. What does your criticism sound like and how do you immediately respond to it? Developing positive actions, such as deep breathing and reading positive affirmations, will help you to silence negative self-criticism.

4) Encourage Yourself

One of the hardest things to do for a self-critic is to give oneself a compliment or praise. I struggle with this at times and it’s something that must consciously be worked on in order to overcome your inner critic. Practice telling yourself positive affirmations such as “I’m worthy of good things”, “I’m an intelligent person”, and “My life is beautiful.” Filling yourself up with positive words and repeating them will overtime quiet that pesky negative self-critic.

5) Ask For Help

Life has an interesting way of turning our lowest points around to be a catalyst for our greatest triumphs. If you are experiencing significant self-criticism it can feel like you’re riding a never-ending wave of negative emotions. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to suffer in silence. If you suffer from negative self-criticism try talking with trusted family and friends. Speaking with those who love you and care about your well-being will provide you with the support you need to overcome your self-criticism. In addition, there’s nothing wrong if you need to seek professional counseling to guide you towards thinking better about yourself. Doing so will help you to approach life with a positive outlook.

Feel free to share your experience with self-criticism and ways you are overcoming it.

Thanks for reading,



  • DaLorean January 2, 2019 at 5:41 PM

    I am my WORST critic. I basically dont even see the positives and go straight for criticizing the negatives! I’m definitely going to work on this this year. Thanks for the post.

    • Sundaye January 2, 2019 at 6:01 PM

      It takes consistent work to change any habit, including being self-critical. Keep making small adjustments each day and don’t give up. πŸ™‚

  • Katie November 28, 2018 at 11:22 PM

    Best of me and watching! So sorry I am more tierd than I relized πŸ™

  • Katie November 28, 2018 at 11:20 PM

    This is a really good post! It can be so easy to let self criticism get the best me! Watch what thoughts I let my-self dwell on is something I have put a lot of effort into!

  • Kippi August 26, 2018 at 2:40 PM

    Much needed content for myself. I will be sharing this to help others too. Thank you, Kippi

    • Sundaye August 26, 2018 at 4:52 PM

      You’re very welcome. I’m glad you found it useful. πŸ™‚

  • Angela Barton August 26, 2018 at 11:13 AM

    Great tips that everyone can relate to. Self criticism plagues so many of us and this article is very helpful.

    • Sundaye August 26, 2018 at 4:53 PM

      Thank You Angela πŸ™‚

  • amy August 26, 2018 at 7:18 AM

    great tips! I’m so self critical and have trouble remembering not to be so hard on myself. thanks for sharing

    • Sundaye August 26, 2018 at 4:54 PM

      Thank you Amy for taking the time to read the article. πŸ™‚

  • Emma August 26, 2018 at 7:09 AM

    I often find myself pointing out my self-perceived “flaws” to other people when I worry that they might be criticizing me silently. It’s like I’m attempting to reassure them that I’m aware of my faults, but in reality, it’s possible that they were never judging me at all… until I gave them reason to! I’m working on being less self-critical, so I appreciate your post!

    • Sundaye August 26, 2018 at 6:17 PM

      Thank you Emma! I can relate to this as well. The important thing to remember is that recognizing when you are being self-critical allows you to take actionable steps that can help you become less critical πŸ™‚

  • Dariana August 26, 2018 at 7:03 AM

    These tips are so good but very easier said than done. I truly wish I could apply these tips to my personal life

    • Sundaye August 26, 2018 at 6:23 PM

      It takes time to change the way you think, especially when you’re self-critical. Keep your head up and take each day as it comes. πŸ™‚

  • Elaine March 31, 2018 at 10:20 AM

    We are our own worst enemies! This is tough, esp for women.. I like what you shared, we need to be kind to ourselves.. Another point i would add, is to also surround yourself with positive energy or positive people! Thanks for this post…

    • Sunny March 31, 2018 at 12:58 PM

      Your welcome, and I agree we have to surround ourselves with people who uplift us and provide positive energy πŸ™‚

  • Lily March 30, 2018 at 6:04 PM

    I’m definitely working on (and struggling with!) positive self-talk, and putting things in perspective. We judge ourselves so much more harshly than we ever judge anyone else.

    • Sunny March 30, 2018 at 6:29 PM

      It definitely is something you have to work at. I have my up and down days as well but it gets better overtime πŸ™‚

  • Kseniia March 28, 2018 at 6:52 PM

    I’m learning how to be less critic towards myself, trying to pay attention to my achievements, not only to things I didn’t have time to do or didn’t do good enough in my opinion. This post was really helpful, thank you!


    • Sunny March 28, 2018 at 7:17 PM

      Learning to be less critical of ourselves is a process. Glad you found it helpful πŸ™‚

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